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Re: A Healthy Marriage Recipe

drmax — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 12:47:11 -0000

No, if you look on http://www.EasyMarriageCoun... you'll find the
answers to these questions. You have to address the core beliefs and
not behavior nor symptoms. "Same-Old" Marriage Counseling and
individual therapy embroil you in the same problems over and over and
over again. The problem with most therapy is that people are constantly
pushed into dealing with issues they have NO tools to deal with, using
the same defenses and reactions over and over again and nothing moves
forward. Most therapists, even fairly seasoned marriage therapists,
neither have the knowlege nor skills to handle directing a change, and
in regular therapy therapists get "co-opted" into the pathology of the
client, siding, having emotional reactions, getting "politically swayed"
by their own belief system and on and on.

Re: A Healthy Marriage Recipe

Red — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 12:14:13 -0000

Do you think that both husband and wife should attend therapy individually and then together to save a marriage? If addictions are involved, should that be addressed before marriage counseling starts? Or as part of?

Re: A Healthy Marriage Recipe

drmax — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 08:49:50 -0000

Hi Richard and thanks for the comment. Two sources. My book "You Don't
Have to Change Who You Are To Have a Great Marriage," which is available
on Amazon or any bookstore, and the course at
http://www.EasyMarriageCoun... where I teach all the specifics.
I know several of my colleagues are developing new materials which are
less biased to the "usual" therapy styles, but they haven't published yet.
- Dr. Max

Re: A Healthy Marriage Recipe

Richard Clarke — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 01:23:06 -0000

I like this article, I'd also be interested in finding out a little more about "but some new methods are becoming increasingly friendly to both men and women" do you have any references that I could follow? Many thanks.

richard@galahadtransitions.com